We humans always want the approval of the person who doesn’t want to give it to us.
Does this not seem curious to you?
Instead of just walking away and saying “your loss”, we often chase after others, ‘begging and pleading’ for their approval, all the while believing that we must have done something wrong.
We must bear in mind that some people actually ENJOY making other people feel bad. Many people actually ENJOY ‘rejecting’ others. It gives them a feeling of power, an elevated sense of ego.
Classic example:
There are MANY women who will spend all week shopping (sometimes with someone else’s money), spend two hours putting on their new clothing and new makeup (and doing their hair)…..only then to go out to get attention from men…….so that they can reject those same men and then have the audacity to complain to their friends about what “losers” and “pigs” men are and how they hate it when men look at them like “pieces of meat”……..
FOFL…..Go figure! …..And with me being a witness to this mentality far too many times, i cannot believe that it is just mere coincidence.
Part of growing up (while becoming ‘GENUINE’) and getting this area of your life handled is realizing that not all people are good people, and to not let those that aren’t ‘CHILL’ AFFECT YOU.
You have to reach a point in your life where your attitude becomes “I WILL NOT give anyone permission to take my joy, happiness and good mood from me”!!!
When you get to this point, then IT WILL NOT MATTER if someone doesn’t respond positively to you, regardless of the factors involved.
It won’t matter if they reject you.
It won’t matter if they do not have a sense of humor.
(Many inhabitants of this planet do not seem to possess a ‘sharp’ sense of humor anyway.)
None of this will matter if and when you decide not to give anyone permission to TAKE YOUR JOY FROM YOU.
My advice:
Learn to walk away.
Learn to blow it off.
Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and detach from the types of situations where you are bombarded by ignorant and/or negative people, while NOT letting those same people affect you.
You pesky jello-skeletons need to learn the remarkable skill of keeping your power and joy for yourselves without [ever] giving it to anyone else, ESPECIALLY those you don’t even know.
So0o0o0o0o0o……make a decision right now that your joy is your own and that you’ll never allow another person to take it from you.
Feel me?
