We humans always want the approval of the person who doesn’t want to give it to us.
Does this not seem curious to you?
Instead of just walking away and saying “your loss”, we often chase after others, ‘begging and pleading’ for their approval, all the while believing that we must have done something wrong.
We must bear in mind that some people actually ENJOY making other people feel bad. Many people actually ENJOY ‘rejecting’ others. It gives them a feeling of power, an elevated sense of ego.
Classic example:
There are MANY women who will spend all week shopping (sometimes with someone else’s money), spend two hours putting on their new clothing and new makeup (and doing their hair)…..only then to go out to get attention from men…….so that they can reject those same men and then have the audacity to complain to their friends about what “losers” and “pigs” men are and how they hate it when men look at them like “pieces of meat”……..
FOFL…..Go figure! …..And with me being a witness to this mentality far too many times, i cannot believe that it is just mere coincidence.
Part of growing up (while becoming ‘GENUINE’) and getting this area of your life handled is realizing that not all people are good people, and to not let those that aren’t ‘CHILL’ AFFECT YOU.
You have to reach a point in your life where your attitude becomes “I WILL NOT give anyone permission to take my joy, happiness and good mood from me”!!!
When you get to this point, then IT WILL NOT MATTER if someone doesn’t respond positively to you, regardless of the factors involved.
It won’t matter if they reject you.
It won’t matter if they do not have a sense of humor.
(Many inhabitants of this planet do not seem to possess a ‘sharp’ sense of humor anyway.)
None of this will matter if and when you decide not to give anyone permission to TAKE YOUR JOY FROM YOU.
My advice:
Learn to walk away.
Learn to blow it off.
Learn how to IMMEDIATELY disconnect and detach from the types of situations where you are bombarded by ignorant and/or negative people, while NOT letting those same people affect you.
You pesky jello-skeletons need to learn the remarkable skill of keeping your power and joy for yourselves without [ever] giving it to anyone else, ESPECIALLY those you don’t even know.
So0o0o0o0o0o……make a decision right now that your joy is your own and that you’ll never allow another person to take it from you.
Feel me?
…And here I was just about to mention the same thing……fofl
Someone help me quick….I have serious mental health problems.
Some of the most challenging moments in my life, and some of the most cherished, involve caring for others. I say challenging because, like most people’s, my days are very full, complex and challenging. Dropping everything to ‘nurse’ someone back to health isn’t always fitting.
What I have cherished, though, was knowing that my love for them was felt, and that it made/makes a difference.
The activity of caring has deep spiritual roots. It reflects an ethical imperative to respond to one in need – giving another the same dignity and aid we would hope to be given if facing a similar challenge.
But there is something deeper at work, and in the midst of the challenges, it can be really important to reflect deeply on what it is that has brought us to this place of caring for another.
When the sheer hard work of caring for another tries to crush inspiration, it’s helpful to remember that this care for others is the essence of our being.
The work of caring and nursing is often undervalued by the world.
The world needs love and care probably more than anything else.
Personally, I’ve spent most of my adult life ‘caring’ for many people, including my wonderful son…..
The moments I’ve felt most poised and fulfilled have had certain elements in common:
• What people most need of me is seldom the thing they think they need. People think that what they most need is to be more comfortable, to have something to eat, to be given a bath, or to be taken for a walk. While these things are important, there’s a deeper need that’s not to be overlooked: the need for genuine respect and concern. People need to know that their comfort and well-being really matter to me. The spirit that I communicate and the kindness that I express are not extras. They are basic human needs. The poor suffering heart needs its rightful nutriment, such as peace, patience in tribulation, and a priceless sense of love.
• The important question is not, “Do I have enough time”? But, “Do I have enough love”? If I care about something, I make the time. I can’t think of a time I’ve regretted stopping to do or say something kind. But I can think of times that I wish I’d been a little more thoughtful, patient, or understanding.
• There’s something much bigger than me going on. There is a celestial design at work. When I’m most aware that any good I may do is worth it [and as the result of the reassurance of care I have for others], I have greater patience with others. I trust more deeply that my work makes a difference and that the Love that has sent me is also ‘transferring’ other help.
The world doesn’t rest on my shoulders.
I work as patiently and steadfastly as I am able and when it’s time to turn the ‘care’ over to someone else or to trust others to care for themselves, my divine Love will still be with them, caring for them and sending them help and guidance in all ways.
At the end of the day, I want my friends, my ditto, associates, comrades and my son…. to clearly recognize not how wonderful and caring I have been, but how wonderful and caring they are.
It’s my job, not just to be loving, but to see this love in the heart of everyone I care for.
Looks like i’m moving…..AGAIN……
*edit*
Suddenly, TR Lawing is informing me that my lease isn’t up until the end of May, which I know is bullshit! If this is how they act, when my only goal is to locate a cheaper place [and with me being the 'ideal tenant'], who knows how the fuck they will react when and if they see those door frames…..fofl, not!
When i get home i will have to dig up my copy of the lease, for i am not in the mood [or prepared] to cope w/ anymore stress! There is absolutely no fucking way i can shove out another $800…….i am already in wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy over my head!
*edit*
Hurry up and fucking die already you [*edited*] one….
http://www.deadoraliveinfo.com/dead.nsf/fnames-nf/Falwell+Jerry
[*edited*]http://www.deadoraliveinfo.com/dead.nsf/jnames-nf/John+Paul+Pope+II
Smile for the cameras when you both are reincarnated and return as gay, devil worshipping black women from San Fran……
http://20q.net
This is an experiment in artificial intelligence.
This program is very simple but its behavior is complex. Everything that it knows and all questions that it asks were entered by people playing this game.
20Q.net is a learning system; the more it is played, the smarter it gets.
Humanoids are so predictable….the ‘A.I.’ guessed that my thoughts were situated in the gutter… [just for fun you sick, lowly bastardoz...]!
After 30 questions, it believed that i was ‘thinking’ about a puppet, but when i answered “NO”, i received this response:
“Get your mind out of the gutter! I am not allowed to talk about stuff like this, but, I am guessing that it has something to do with sex?”
FOFL….
Why yes, you might consider a blow-up doll somewhat of a sexual blemish on my conscious…..FOFL…..
NOTE:
NO, I don’t own or plan on owning a blow-up doll, you perverts. [-)
