I can’t pretend to know the people involved and won’t try to psychoanalyze their lives or anything due to that. She’s wrong because she can’t look beyond your short-comings or her own. Life is full of events that people share blame in. She’s so focused on treating her son like a trophy – keeping him only for herself for spite. It’s not about her worrying about her child’s wellbeing in this case either because you’ve taken the steps to make a proper environment for him, etc.

I don’t want to sound pessimistic either, but I agree with Molly on this one. You will most likely need to go through the courts. Emotions will probably fly high either way, but with court at least there are dates set and closure when they provide for joint custody. Right now, even if she let you see him once, there would be no guarantee that she would let you see him after that.

I’m sorry that I’m too tired to form more coherant thoughts… there aren’t any words that I could say to help fill the void anyway I suppose. Just don’t give up. No matter how long it takes or what she tries to say about/to you, don’t give up. My “dad” had us in his own home and didn’t care. But you… once he’s within your walls (even if it is during set dates) you won’t ever forget the fight and the love that fuelled it. Pursue it until there are no more options to pursue and then start again. *HUG*

🙁 Between the post and the comment, I’m teared up, and stuck somewheres betweem pissed off and sad:( Dammit. A father should be able to see his child, and a mother should be able to love her son so unconditionally, that she wants her child to have his father’s love in his life, and not get stuck on some twisted agenda that has absolutely nothing to do with the child. I don’t know gory details, and I’m not gonna pretend to, but I hope with al my heart that this works out sooner than later, no matter what path you wind up having to take to see your son. *Hugs Audiomind and sends good vibes*
~Much Much Love