what is love

So what is love?

Rather than talk directly about what I think romantic love is, it might help to begin with some of the misconceptions people (until recently, myself included) commonly have about love. By identifying some things that appear to be obvious misconceptions, we can at least know what love is not, and so get a clearer picture of what it might be.

Misconception 1: Love is a particular kind of feeling.

About 12 years ago [I must be getting old…….aghhhhhhh!], when I was optimistically experimenting with open-relationships, I wrote an essay about what Love was. It seemed obvious to me that love was an emotion, and so goes that love was a feeling, thus it came and went as feelings do.… Read More...